Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Sweet Beginnings

All girls will remember that lovely moment when the man you love gets down on one knee and asks you to marry him. Mine happened March 11th of 2012. I remember it very clearly, partly due to the fact that instead of a proposal, I was expecting the door to any chance of a relationship to be closed forever! My dear love in the middle of a restaurant got on one knee and told me heart melting words, "From the moment I met you, you changed my life. I love you, Morgan. Will you marry me?"  If any of you personally know my husband, you will know how quiet of a man he is. So imagine my surprise at such a proposal in the middle of such a public place! Funny thing, our tender love and esteem for each other was so low key, that when announced at church, most were shocked! And told us they didn't even know we were interested in the other! To me it just made our love story all the more special.

My did I enjoy those months of betrothal. Every moment, I took and hid them and treasured them in heart and mind, and several I recorded! Something I found to be priceless to me now in the midst of marriage. Every text message that played my heart strings, or display of affection, or spoken word that made me into a pool of romanced girlishness...I took and wrote down. That simple action has been such a blessing to me. Now, ten blessed months of marriage, filled with ecstacy, heartache, hills and valleys I have the ability to look back at those sweet beginnings and recall the thrill of new found love, the freshness of a fascination for my spouse, and let me just say that in those valleys, nothing is more comforting than remembering his words of deep love and promise.

I continue to record and treasure such things. Time and discerment have opened my eyes to a much greater and more powerful purpose for it. At times throughout our union, I have found myself doubting that my husband is still as much in love with me as he was at the start, or if I am still attractive to him, and if he likes the way I run his home! Did he honestly show actions of these thoughts? Or state them to me in conversation? Of course not! But you ladies who read this can agree: emotion and feelings are incredibly strong. And they have this horribly annoying way of blinding us with a filter that amplifies things. For example, if I feel my husband no longer finds me pretty and a week passes without a compliment and my efforts to dress up go unnoticed, my head tells me, "This confirms my feelings!" Is this true? But I feel it! So my attitude can change and sure enough, a domino effect takes place. My attitude effects my husband and our marriage is suddenly rained upon by a grey cloud of whose origin, my spouse has no idea of! Is this healthy? Ah...see where a simple habit as mine comes to the rescue? What better defeats a lie than truth? I can easily whip out my written records of the PARAGRAPHS of the declarations of his attraction for me. My head is settled from the disturbance my heart fed me. And it saves our union from unneeded drama. If such feelings still plague me, I go to him and the lies get disspelled in a unified manner. What a beautiful but powerful use for something I considered nothing more than a goofy romantic keepsake. God took my romantical sensibilities and gave me a weapon against our adversary.

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

An Introduction

The Delighted Bride, I felt to be the perfect name for my blog. What more could describe me? Being my wonderful husband's bride for as little time as it has been, has truly been the best time of my life. As it says elsewhere on my blog: One who lives what she dreamt. For as long as I could remember, matrimony, homemaking and motherhood was my dream. Now each morning I wake to the sweet reality of a dream come true! Even my man once told me long before we were engaged, "I have never met a girl who wants to be married as much as you do."

That all being said, this blog will be used by me to share fun things I discover or learn, maybe a tutorial or two, a place to give encouragement to young women still waiting for her Prince and young wives like myself in matters of husband,home and child. I hope The Delighted Bride to truly be a mirror reflecting my passion for all I hold dear.